Believe that you can deal with it, and you can
“Believe You Can and You're Halfway There”. It’s a quote by Theodore Roosevelt. Believe me, it is so true. Whatever you set your mind to, sooner or later will be materialized outside of you. If you think it is difficult, you’ll find nothing except difficulties. If you believe you can’t bear meeting someone you dislike, be prepared to suffer. So be aware of what you believe before you enter the room or begin your task.
When being told that we are about to do something we hate doing, most often our first reaction is resistance. Our mind instantly filled with negative thoughts. “It’s boring”, “It’s difficult”, “I hate it”, “I’m just too afraid, I can’t do it”. From thoughts, it comes down to our feelings. We feel the resistance in our heart and body. We perspire, and our heart rate is faster than normal. We start worrying. We even protest and find ways to avoid the situation. But sometimes, that’s the best option we have. Like it or not, we have to face it, or else we’ll be in a worse situation.
Whatever your case is, face the reality wisely. It is not the situation that is difficult or unbearable. It is your belief that makes it so. You are restraining yourself from being your best. You are emitting out negative vibration. And thus, evoking negative responses. You make it difficult long before you begin, or enter the situation. As a result, you suffer all the way long.
To avoid suffer and trouble, the first thing you should do is to accept it with an open heart. Take it as a challenge to be your best, and to build your resilience muscle. You can deal with it if you believe in yourself. Be positive. Be in control. Block those negative thoughts from weakening you. Know that you can deal with it, with ease and calm.
The more you think about it, the more you feel uncomfortable and nervous. What happens is you are allowing those negative thoughts controlling you. So forget those bad thoughts. Know that human are highly adaptive, biologically and mentally. You just have to trust yourself. Think of something meaningful out of the situation. Your big mouth aunt Jane, is coming for a visit. From your previous unpleasant experience with her, you know she is a disaster. But then, be positive. Perhaps it’s time for you to exercise your self-control; your temper and politeness. Let her be herself, and you your best self. Who we want to be is our choice. Hold on to your positive principles and earn the respect of others. Be prepared to be your best, then let go. When the time comes just go with the flow.
From giving a public speech, to going to a party full of strangers, be prepared to be the best version of yourself. Instead of thinking what could go wrong, think of ways of how you can make things better. Instead of thinking and feeling how much you hate it, be excited for the opportunity to be your best.
Whatever the situation is, be there. Be pleasant and enjoy every moment mindfully. When it’s over, you’ll be a better person inside out. A more easygoing person and pleasant to be with. And more resilient. So go for it, and be grateful for the opportunity. Love yourself and everyone else unconditionally, and you’ll find an abundance of love around you. Cheers!
About the author: Nur Nuha is a freelance writer who writes mostly about self improvement. Feel free to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org